The human brain is very complex. As much as you’d like to have control over it and stay positive to keep stress levels at a minimum, sometimes it’s just impossible. Or so it seems. Your brain can literally treat you like its puppet and take over your mind. And before you know it, you are flowing down a negative river and feeling bad for yourself for whatever reason(s).
It’s important that in times like this you find a way to ground yourself and be grateful. It’s not easy to do it, and I know I personally have a hard time being grateful when all I can think about are the things going wrong in my life.
Haven’t you ever sat back and thought, “Ugh, why me?”
Many times, it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself over things that you can’t control. For instance, if your car breaks down (uncontrollable), you typically get to fixing it right away because you know you need transportation to get to work or school the next day. I mean of course, I personally break down, cry, and wonder why this is happening to me. That something like this would happen to me! And I’m a jinx, and so on. But after the initial break down, I start figuring out ways to repair my car and figuring out how much it’ll cost me to get it done ASAP.
It’s very easy to get wound up in those initial negative thoughts. It’s easy to be negative when anything that isn’t going “your way” happens. But it’s important to remember that negative thinking is also something we, as humans, create and have control over. Instead of crying that my car broke down, I started to laugh at myself and smile really hard because I knew that in reality, I was lucky to still be alive!
So to help you find gratitude, think about this.
What are 3 things you’re grateful for today? Regardless of where you are in your life, just think hard about why you are grateful for being alive today. I am grateful for having a roof over my head, a family who loves me, and the ability wake up and walk with my own two feet, every single day!
Now remember those things you’re grateful for? Write them down. Email them to yourself and take a screen shot. Revisit that screen shot as often as possible. Life will continue to happen, and there will be situations that are out of your control, but your reaction to them is everything. Ask yourself every morning, “What am I grateful for today?” It’s so important to train your brain to be positive because without positivity, it’s a spiral down the negative river.