Stress is so inevitable and it can consume the life out of us if we don’t face it.
Over the past few years, I’ve found that keeping myself grounded and being present has helped me deal with stress. But this past summer when I turned 30, I became very self conscious and judgmental of myself. I started to create my own stress, and that’s when my anxiety levels SKY ROCKETED 🚀 I began to question my previous education and career moves, what I’ve accomplished, how many times I’ve failed, and focused on the negative versus appreciating how far I’ve come. We really don’t always realize how much pressure we create for ourselves, and how outside channels like social media can impact the way we look at ourselves.
Now that I am beginning a new month, I’ve decided to let go of my fears and my negative thoughts. I’ve caused myself a lot of stress trying to impress myself and set expectations that I knew just weren’t for me. So, I’ve decided I’m just going to be the best version of myself, and appreciate it while I can.
So how can you deal with stress when it hits you head on?
Face it! Accept what’s happening and ask yourself why it’s happening. Is there something you can do to avoid creating stress for yourself? If you are unhappy with what you’re doing, is it because you aren’t good at it or are you just forcing yourself to do what you’ve “thought” you’ve always wanted?
If you keep running out of money, have you sat down and made a plan to save? If you think someone or something is causing you to feel insecure, have you tried talking to them about it and finding out why it’s affecting you the way it is? Could you be burying things inside and being passive with your own reactions because you think eventually things will just be “normal”? Are you avoiding tough conversations because you expect them to go completely wrong? Majority of the time, our minds are what stress us out the most.
Finding the root or cause of your stress is important. It might be the fear of leaving a job that you thought you always wanted, or maybe the thought of accepting that happiness is right in front of you and you don’t need to search any longer. But are your thoughts geared towards happiness and being the best version of yourself? I find that being present and taking time to breathe, look around, and inhale everything that’s around me is what helps me feel less stressed nor worried about what could’ve been (past) or what could be (future).
I heard it once before, “Depression stems from living in the past, anxiety rises from living in the future, and happiness comes from living in the present.”
So stay true to looking at situations in a more positive light while staying present. For tomorrow really isn’t promised and yesterday is long gone. It’s something we all hear but how many of us actually believe it?